Having the “Talk”

The time is coming…

Toes

Today, Atticus put his toes in his mouth for the first time. It was pretty neat.

He likes to see me when I get hone from work, recognizes our voices, and loves to play and laugh – just like all babies, I guess!

And for Halloween, our little monkey was, well: a monkey!

iParent

There’s an old Bill Cosby routine that begins “My wife and I were intellectuals. . . before we had children.” It’s a funny bit about how intellectuals go to classes to learn how to have natural childbirth. Of course, that how J & I approached the pregnancy. And it’s actually amazing how much I learned. Kidding aside, the education is important and I highly recommend it.

Of course, knowledge alone won’t cut it, especially in those early, uncertain days right after the birth, you also need tools: a crib, a stroller, diapers – yes, all these but others too. The tools nowadays are electronic: light-sensitive nightlights, automated swings, toys that play music, and . . . iphones.

The iphone is an amazing device, but for parents its usefulness might be boundless.

From the beginning of the pregnancy we used the iphone. J started using the What to Expect iphone app to plot out her pregnancy dates and track her progress. After A came along, we started logging his sleep-wake-eat-diaper routine with Tot Timers.

Both J and I have iphones, but in the beginning it was just hers.

There are a great number of pregnancy and parenting iphone apps out there, here are a few, and a few more.

Perhaps the greatest use for the iphone has been simply playing white noise to help calm lil A and help him sleep. I mentioned back in March that we had attended a workshop on the Happiest Baby on the Block (Harvey Karp). It was a methodology that we embraced and tried hard to follow. For the most part it worked. Perhaps more importantly, it is empowering to have a system for understanding your baby and methods for soothing them. The iphone actually retains an amazing battery-life when playing music/white-noise through the speakers. So when A was younger – and lighter – it was easy to get him to sleep in his car seat with a little bit of rocking with the sound of rain coming from an iphone at his feet (at 22lbs! he’s getting a bit heavy to rock in his car seat!).

The iphone is a flashlight. The iphone is an entertainment system. It is, of course, a vital communication tool too: soundless text messages don’t disturb a sleeping baby. And a quick snapshot of a box of diapers at the grocery store can quickly be sent home for confirmation, “are these the diapers you wanted?”

From the glowing testimonial, you’d think I was selling these things. But I fully disclose that I own no Apple stock or other financial interest. The iphone has simply been an excellent tool for parenting during the first half-year.

Learning to Eat, Learning to Sleep

Here’s recent video clip of A eating from a bottle:

He’s actually pretty good at it.

Sleeping on the other hand needs some work. Apparently, there’s this whole “Four Month Sleep Regression” phenom.

Here’s a pretty accurate description, from the Daily B:

I’ve traveled in enough mom circles to know about this phenomenon called the 4-month sleep regression. Something about how round-about 4 months old, babies leave their newborn deep-sleep patterns behind and enter a more adult-like sleep cycle of light sleep followed by deep sleep, REM, or whatever.

So, you nurse your little bub to sleep, or rock him to sleep, and lay him down thinking he’s asleep, but really he’s only barely asleep. And his little eyes flutter open and he looks around and he’s like “WHOA, now where did that nipple go?!” And he cries. Because his world has essentially been turned upside down. In his mind, you might as well have swaddled him in a ratty blanket and left him out on the front stoop.

So yeah. That pretty much describes Atticus these days.

Sleepy A

A much more thorough examination of the “fourth-month sleep regression” is offered up at Ask Moxie, here’s an excerpt:

I actually think regression is a complete misnomer for several reasons. First, it implies that babies’ sleep progresses in a linear fashion, with better sleep each week until the fateful day at which they sleep all the way through every single night. To put it mildly, that isn’t true. Secondly, it indicates that it’s a negative trend, when in reality it’s just a reaction to things cooking on other levels.

I think the reason the “4-month sleep regression” is such a big deal is that babies wake up a lot in the few weeks it takes while they’re working on the 19-week spurt, and then once they’ve gone through that spurt they only have a week or two (if that) of respite before they start prepping for the 26-week spurt. So it’s kind of one long stretch of bad sleep and cranky moods during that stage of your baby’s life.

So many different books and blogs, so many different opinions.

If you read this whole post in order to find my insightful conclusions here at the bottom, I’m sorry to disappoint: I have none. We’re just going to try and manage the best we can given the mish mash of differing opinions on sleep theory that we have.

The Child or the Dog

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If it’s not one, it’s the other. Lol. Regarding the messy expulsion of fluids that is.

A had some immunization shots yesterday. We braced for a difficult night. But he wasn’t too bad actually.

Instead, it was retching of Nigel the Puggle that awakened me at two in the morning. Poor dog. Something didn’t sit well in his stomach. It didn’t sit well on the carpet either. So out comes the carpet cleaner and stain remover…at two in the morning.

This is the life, right?