This evening, J & I watched the documentary The Business of Being Born. I read a little about the movie at wikipedia before we started it: “The film criticizes the American health care system with its emphasis on drugs and costly interventions and its view of childbirth as a medical emergency rather than a natural occurrence.”
“Are you okay with that?” she asked. She knows I’m not very granola.
I said: “Yes. I’m already there.”
“You’re already there?” she questioned.
“Yes. You know that I don’t think babies should be born in hospitals.” Which is true – I’ve said it many times before. I’ve expressed a preference for some sort of birth centre – which, to my knowledge, doesn’t exist in Saskatchewan (but there’s one in Calgary, apparently, and one to open in Winnipeg).
But I could understand her reluctance to believe me. It was not all that long ago that I knew very little about pregnancies or, frankly, much else about female physiology generally (my specialty has been on the fun parts!). And I also had a preference for pain killers and anesthetic. Somehow things have changed.
In other ways my evolution makes perfect sense. I’m just enough of a contrarian and a libertarian that I’d rather not have doctors tell me what to do. Plus I’m a historian and I happen to know that billions of births have taken place outside of hospitals without complications.
Now it’s easy enough for me to have whatever opinion I’d like. I’m not the one giving birth. And besides, J and I haven’t really considered home birth, nor are we using a midwife. We’ve only really just started to feel educated about this whole pregnancy-thing. And midwifery in Saskatchewan is relatively new (Saskatchewan regulated midwifery on March 14, 2008 ).
We are planning on having a doula.
But I really think that if we have a second pregnancy we’ll seriously consider a home birth.
The movie was quite good. Quite even-handed. And there’s a helluva ending.
And now: the machine that goes PING!
Earlier I discussed my research into the alleged connections between childhood vaccinations and autism. But recently the esteemed medical journal, the Lancet, officially retracted a 1998 article that made the first and only scientific suggestion of such a connection.
The Lancet’s retraction came less than a week after the U.K.’s General Medical Council, the regulator of medical practice, ruled that in conducting the study Wakefield had acted “dishonestly and irresponsibly” by failing to disclose financial conflicts of interest and that he had shown “callous disregard” for his patients by subjecting them to unnecessary invasive procedures.
Henry I. Miller at Forbes is harsh in his criticism of the Lancet for publishing the article in the first place and for taking over ten years to retract it – in spite of numerous obvious faults with the original study (12 test subjects does not a reliable conclusion make). I can’t help but agree. The Wall Street Journal points out that the panic over vaccinations has unmistakably resulted in higher infection rates and even some deaths.
The irony here is that the general public have relied on a main-stream medical journal to draw conclusions that are contrary to main-stream medical science. The result has been increased misery and death.
But perhaps the experience will lead to a more appropriate level of cynicism among the public and the media. New claims that run against common sense and accumulated science should be greeted with overt scepticism. After all, the scientific method demands that conclusions be reproducible.
And yet, I shouldn’t be hopeful here. Every day hundreds of television stations report on new scientific studies, usually without any critical eye or review procedure. Frankly, what passes for science and medical journalism is atrocious, in some cases even unethical.
And thus the disaster at the Lancet. A medical or scientific journal really has nothing except its reputation. These journals are not immune to the vagaries of politics.
My job as a Communications Coordinator at the University of Saskatchewan officially comes to an end in two weeks. But my last day at work will be this Wednesday.
Wow! A new baby, a new job. Things are certainly getting a big shakeup this year.
I’m going to miss lots of things about working at the U of S – mostly the great colleagues I met in my department. They’re a great gang.
But I’m also excited about the move to a new job in a new company.
The company is a Saskatoon-based corporate communications and marketing firm called Creative Fire. And everyone I tell about the move says something positive about this company. They have a great reputation.
I hadn’t planned on making this move – it was certainly not something I’d decided to squeeze in between my December schedule of house renovations and Christmas shopping. But the opportunity came along thanks to a good friend’s introduction.
Meeting with the folks at Creative Fire was a blast. The office exudes energy and verve. I’m pretty pumped about getting started.
No, this change wasn’t in J’s and mine grand plan, but as the old line goes:
The best laid schemes o’ mice an’ men
Gang aft agley.
Happy New Year!
I was absorbed in offline seasonal activities for much of the past few weeks – as I hope you were too. But additionally I’ve spent much of 2010 in bed suffering from a cold with greater-than-average resiliency. And although I don’t usually put much faith in cold medicine, today I’ve finally given in and popped some Tylenol Sinus. I feel better. I can function, at least.
When I’m sick, I’m the sort of sufferer who basically wants the world to go away while I curl up on the couch napping, catching the occasional cartoon rerun. This approach has served me well most of my life – even through six years of marriage. This time, however, with a very pregnant working wife, it wasn’t so cool. Not that J complained much, just that she has her hands full with everything else and can’t pick up any of my slack. Which got me to thinking about how I can possibly handle being sick and having a kid to take care of. And what if the kid was sick at the same time too?
You’ll all agree that this scenario simply cannot work and therefore you’ll support the course of action upon which I’ve decided: I will simply not to get sick again for about 10 years. I’ll need lots of vitamin C and hand sanitizer.
My tongue is only partially in my cheek. It is beginning to hit home that I cannot afford to run my life in the manner to which I’ve become very comfortable. That is to say that in the past I could easily afford risking a cold or a broken ankle or whatever, because it didn’t really affect anyone’s life if I were bedridden – other than me. Even being married didn’t change that very much – sorry J, but you can look out for yourself if I’m ill, our kid isn’t going to be able to for a long while.
And, sure, J will be there to help out (lots), but things are going to change.
But in other baby-related news…
We had 25 voters participate in our baby-naming poll. The votes were very close, with no clear winner. And since we’ve found out that we are having a boy, we’ve gone back and reconsidered our name ideas. We are still happy with them, but we are also adding two new names for consideration. So if you’d like to have your say on the new names, visit the new poll.
Many of you will be aware of a greater naming challenge: the Last Name. As many of you know, J and I both kept our original last names when we married. We have been very happy with that decision, but this doesn’t give us any easy answers for what our children’s last names should be. But more on that later.
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image courtesy of flickr’s creative commons and destinysagent
So if you haven’t figured this out from the blog post title, we are expecting a boy!
J at the ultrasound
The latest in 3D Ultrasonic Technology confirms the presence of very tiny testicles. That’s the perfect setup for a punchline about genetics and my masculinity. So let’s just move past it shall we?
A boy – but don’t tell Janelle’s father. Apparently he doesn’t want to know until it he(!) is born. I have know idea how we’ll be able to keep this information away from him. But I suppose we’ll try.
The 3D Ultrasound was pretty fun, actually. The room is very comfortable, with big leather chairs and such. Not clinical at all. Ultrasounds are not new, but it still seems like a mind-blowing technology: “Let’s take a look at the living thing in your stomach.” Wow! There it is – let’s count the toes!
Add into this that we had four of our family members watching this experience live on the Internet. Plus I was snapping pics (like this one of J) on her iPhone, texting my sister, and posting to twitter at the same time. Oh, and drinking a Tim’s coffee.
We live in very luxurious times. How can you raise kids to appreciate this luxury and not have them take it for granted?
So, yes, a boy!
We think.
The technician was very positive and spent a great degree of time checking various angles in order to satisfy herself. So I’m confident.
And yet: this wouldn’t be the first time that the ultrasound was wrong (far from it). And that’s okay. J loves surprises. And I’m perfectly happy for either a boy or a girl.
But it’ll very likely be a boy.
So now we are refining and focusing the list of possible names (I’ll be discussing the issues with the Last Name in a later post). J is trying “Henry” on for size.
And to me it all seems that much more real. The resolution on the future seems higher and much more viewable. And with the increase in resolution so too an increase in the enormity of the responsibility.
Oh geeze.
I think J is feeling something similar. Now she’s able to think about the idea of a son. She’s going to have a mother-son relationship. I’m going to have a father-son relationship. That is a little unnerving.
I’m suddenly reminded of when I was learning how to swim: hanging on to the side of the pool and putting my foot into the water – deeper and deeper – and nothing beyond.
I guess it’s sink or swim time buddy.
